Men Are Struggling Too — And No One Talks About It, Why Men Are Numb And Lonely (Public Speech)

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I wrote this speech to shine a light on male pain and struggle, because I feel there’s a growing gap — especially online — between the genders. Both sides are hurting, and both struggle to truly understand the other’s pain.

Since I’m a man, I can only speak from that side of the experience.

Social media, in particular, has become increasingly toxic toward men — often invalidating their feelings, labeling them as privileged, or painting them solely as beneficiaries of the patriarchy.

While there are structural issues and outdated mindsets that need to shift, I believe no one grows from a place of blame and shame.

There are countless young men out there — playing video games all day, isolated, without close friends — using porn as just one way to numb the pain. Many of them have grown up without role models or mentors, trying to figure it out all on their own.

I know how that feels. Because I was one of them.

I don’t believe the world becomes a better place by constantly calling men out — that cycle only deepens the wounds, and in the end, it hurts women too.

I believe in a world where men receive the mentorship and emotional guidance they’ve longed for. Where they are supported in becoming the best, most grounded, and safest versions of themselves.

And I believe that this is what will ultimately make the world a more beautiful place — for all of us.

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This is the slightly edited version of my speech (I fumbled a few times and had to find my words :D …it was my first speech after all!), “Boys Deserve Love Too,” performed at the Give It All speaking event in Bali, hosted by @giveitall.event. (Give it All)

This speech is my way of saying: compassion belongs in the conversation about men. Not after they’ve “fixed themselves,” but now. As they are.

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